I think its one of those times that the emotion component takes the better of you and you just find yourself wondering why, why does it feel bad? You know all the logic in the world says something else. You can defend others' actions, understand why did they do what they did. You clearly understand why you feel what you feel but you can't just help it. You feel something just because you feel it - your mind seems to have renounced all reason and become a slave of your emotions.
You know that it just doesn't matter! It is never going to affect you but just because you expected it to happen, you feel bad about it. And you start questioning everything in the world, think of everything in the most negative way.
Why should it matter?
Well by now you must be wondering why this rant today?? Well, I have been applying for a PhD position and as any student who has ever applied for such things (except for some lucky ****) would tell you, rejection is way of life and totally inevitable. What this leaves you with is momentary highs and lows, some cases of incredible joy (wow this guy replied!!!) and other points of depression (I am totally not worth. what am I even doing?? Right choice of career???), but mostly depression.
I think it's a excruciating experience but it is something that people have to go through. No matter how sugar coated the rejection might be "I believe that you are an exceptional candidate with your extensive research experience", "Your CV looks very impressive", "We were all extremely impressed by your application", "I have confidence that you will find a PhD position where your skills will be an outstanding asset.", "I wish you all the success in future studies", it still a rejection and you are left with daunting task of starting all over again and look for other opportunities (Not that I suggest that language of these should change to "Your CV sucks", "I don't think you'll be able to get any position"). It's just that it feels bad and you don't need to be in this field to agree that rejection does hurt especially if you have worked hard for it. Unfortunately, all you can do is sulk, take a deep breath and write a blog about it.....
You know that it just doesn't matter! It is never going to affect you but just because you expected it to happen, you feel bad about it. And you start questioning everything in the world, think of everything in the most negative way.
Why should it matter?
Well by now you must be wondering why this rant today?? Well, I have been applying for a PhD position and as any student who has ever applied for such things (except for some lucky ****) would tell you, rejection is way of life and totally inevitable. What this leaves you with is momentary highs and lows, some cases of incredible joy (wow this guy replied!!!) and other points of depression (I am totally not worth. what am I even doing?? Right choice of career???), but mostly depression.
I think it's a excruciating experience but it is something that people have to go through. No matter how sugar coated the rejection might be "I believe that you are an exceptional candidate with your extensive research experience", "Your CV looks very impressive", "We were all extremely impressed by your application", "I have confidence that you will find a PhD position where your skills will be an outstanding asset.", "I wish you all the success in future studies", it still a rejection and you are left with daunting task of starting all over again and look for other opportunities (Not that I suggest that language of these should change to "Your CV sucks", "I don't think you'll be able to get any position"). It's just that it feels bad and you don't need to be in this field to agree that rejection does hurt especially if you have worked hard for it. Unfortunately, all you can do is sulk, take a deep breath and write a blog about it.....
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